I found this picture of Cara to put with this blog. She is singing High School Musical songs while Dad plays them on the piano. She is a great singer and loves to sing, especially songs from High School Musical. She is singing a duet in Sunday's Primary Program at church with Shawn and feels like a super star! Now as I look at this picture the first thing I notice is what she is wearing- footless tights.
So the reason for my call for help:
Something has changed Cara. She has always been particular about her socks. The seam has to be at just the right place on the top of her toes, or she just can't stand it. However, she has loved shoes and has always had a lot to choose from thanks to our neighbor Chloe. This school year she has been having major melt downs in the morning about her shoes. I put her on the bus in tears one day about the 2nd week of school because of one such tantrm. That is the earliest I can remember it being this bad. I bought her some seamless socks from Stride Rite and have been trying to find her good shoes. She has worn her Crocs or flip flops as often as she can to avoid wearing socks.
Maybe Chloe just has to wear her shoes first for them to feel right to Cara?
The last 2 weeks however the problem has spread to her pants. She puts on at least 3 pairs of pants each morning after tearfully deciding the previous pair "scratches" her. I have tried to find out what she means and see if I can help, but these are soft, comfortable pants she has worn A LOT. She says they scratch her and hurt at the top of her inner thigh near her crotch. We have missed the bus the last 3 days because she just couldn't get dressed. Yesterday and today we started the process at 7 and still missed her bus at 8:40.
What can I do?
Anyone gone through a stage like this before? The only help I can find online is for sensory disorders or BUY ME adds for socks, etc. I can't buy her a whole new wardrobe. The clothes are not too small for her. Is she just having a hard time adjusting to fall and clothes she hasn't worn since last spring? Is there something I can do if she really is having sensory issues? Am I spoiling her by letting her decide what is comfortable? I don't think it is entirely in her head, I think it really bothers her. I have tried to help her relax and let her body just get use to what she's wearing. Telling her to relax and staying relaxed myself doesn't help her.
I know a lot of great moms read my blog. Send me your thoughts PLEASE. I'm going crazy!!
Friday, October 24, 2008
HELP!!!!!!!
Posted by Jen at 10/24/2008 09:21:00 AM
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It sounds to me like she has a sensory issue. I think there are medications to help that, so I would take her to a doctor. If you don't want to do meds, if it is a sensory issue, I wonder if there is some sort of therapy she could do to help her deal with it. Keep me updated with what happens, I need all the info I can get on raising a girl. :O)
oh no! is this what i have to look forward to? i'm always asking for advice and don't always have the best to give. cute family, though! i'm excited to get to know you better now that you're in y.w. i was the laurel advisor for about a year. hollar if you need help! and let me know when you want your hair done!
Is it only in the morning or all day? I think I'd take her to see the doctor to rule out whether this is a sensory issue or something else. Poor you and poor Cara. I'm sure I'd be pulling out my hair if I were you too! Hang in there and hope it gets better fast!
I know this is not at all the same thing, but Ashleigh has a similar issue with dresses. You will not wear frilly dresses because they "itch". No cute Easter or Christmas dresses for us. One solution I have tried which worked for a while was putting undershirts on her. With winter upon us, maybe they have some kind of leggings/long underwear that she could wear under her pants. Maybe telling her you have "magic" lotion to put on each morning in the area where she seems the most bothered will help create a barrier over the area so that she will at least be comfortable long enough to get to school. I am so sorry. How difficult this must be for you. I'll be thinking about you.
Correction...SHE will not wear frilly dresses because they itch.
Hey Jen. I just ran into Chelsea Pugh at Wal-Mart. Long story short, she was saying how she takes her son to a special dentist because he has sensory issues. I didn't think of you til after, but it might be worth a phone call to her or something. I don't know if it's the same thing. I enjoyed getting to know you better last night. Have a good one.
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